Let’s Discuss Kinks & Fetishes
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The words “Kink” and “Fetish” are terms that have become quite common in today’s society, especially over the past decade. Often these terms are used interchangeably for unusual sexual play, but there are some important distinctions that separate the two.
What exactly is a kink? Kinky sexual interests come in all shapes and sizes, but they’re not your typical vanilla activities. From BDSM to polyamory, cuckolding, pegging, group sex, pony play, littles, and more, there’s no limit to what can be considered a kink. What might seem risque for one person may be mainstream for another, depending on their generation, culture, and religion.
What is a fetish? Fetishes are physical or psychological requirements that drive sexual pleasure. They can involve inanimate objects like leather or silk, or more specific materials. Many people have some slight fetishistic tendencies, such as the popularly fetishized butt.
DISCLAIMER: Before diving into this article, remember that it might not be for everyone. However, we assure you that this is a respectful zone with no vulgarity or detailed descriptions of sexual acts. This is purely educational and safe to read at work.
1 BDSM
BDSM stands for Bondage, Discipline/Domination, Submission/Sadism, and Masochism. It’s an umbrella term that covers a wide range of kinks that revolve around power play between partners. The idea is to voluntarily exchange erotic power in a consensual way.
Bondage involves the use of restraints or ties to limit movement and control one’s partner. It can be used for both pleasure and punishment, depending on what the couple agrees upon beforehand.
Discipline/Domination is all about setting rules and boundaries that are meant to be followed by the submissive partner. The dominant partner takes charge of enforcing these rules and punishing any disobedience. It’s important to establish clear communication and mutual consent before diving into this type of play.
Submission/Sadism involves the submissive partner willingly submitting to their dominant partner, who may use various forms of punishment or humiliation as a means of control. Again, it’s crucial that both partners agree on what is acceptable and safe before engaging in these activities.
Masochism involves the submissive partner seeking out pain or suffering as a form of pleasure. This can include things like being whipped, spanked, or humiliated by their dominant partner. It’s important to remember that masochistic play should always be consensual and safe for all parties involved.
BDSM is all about power play between partners in a consensual way. Safety and consent are key components of this type of play, as they ensure that everyone involved has a good time without any harm coming to them. So if you’re feeling adventurous and want to explore some new kinks, remember to communicate openly with your partner and establish clear rules before diving in.
2 Ropes and Bondage
Ropes and bondage are an exciting way to explore power play between partners. This type of kink involves using ropes or other materials to restrict movement and control one’s partner. It can be used for both pleasure and punishment, depending on what the couple agrees upon beforehand.
One important thing to remember when exploring this kink is to establish a safe word that you can use to quickly end the scene if it becomes too much. This will ensure that both partners feel comfortable and in control throughout the play.
It’s also a good idea to have scissors on hand so that ropes can be easily removed if necessary. This will help prevent any accidents or injuries during play, which is always important when exploring new kinks.
Overall, ropes and bondage are an exciting way to explore power play between partners in a consensual and safe manner. With the right tools and communication, this type of play can be incredibly satisfying for both parties involved.
3 Voyeurism
Sexual voyeurism involves observing someone else who is naked or engaged in sexual activities. This can be done through windows, mirrors, or other means of surveillance.
Voyeurism can be arousing for some people because it allows them to experience the thrill of watching others engage in intimate acts without being caught. Overall, sexual voyeurism can be an exciting kink to explore, but it should always be done with caution and respect for the privacy and well-being of others.
4 Roleplay
This kink is characterized by assuming new personalities during sex and finding increased pleasure as a result of stepping outside of one’s comfort zone. For example, you and your companion could play a librarian and a student, or a delivery driver and a housewife, respectively. Are you usually the more shy or more timid partner but you can really let go and come harder when you don’t have to be yourself? Maybe roleplay is your kink.
5 Exhibitionism
If you ever fantasize about having sex, masturbating, or getting naked in front of an audience or want someone to watch you, then you might find this kink enjoyable. This kink can be a lot of fun, but make sure that what you’re doing won’t get you arrested for indecent exposure!
6 Orgasm Control
This is when you let your partner control the timing of your orgasm. This is often achieved through the use of bondage. The dominant partner restrains the submissive partner and stimulates them to the brink of orgasm—only let them come when/if the dominant partner wants to.
7 Auralism
This is a sound kink, meaning you get turned on by hearing certain kinds of sounds. For example, you might be extra aroused by hearing the sound of your partner hitting against you as you have sex or the sound of their moans or how wet they are.
8 Impact Play
This is a fancy term, but it basically means spanking, paddling or caning. a Consensual erotic hitting to release endorphins which can rush to all the right spots in your body and give you exactly the feelings you are craving. This kink speaks to people who like to experiment with power and sensation.
9 Gags
Having a gag kink can mean that you’re turned on by wearing or making your partner wear a gag of some kind. Ball gags or silicone bits are common toys to use for this.
10 Praise kinks
This would be for someone who loves to hear compliments, praises and words of encouragement. Being told that you are doing such a good job, or that you are a good boy or good girl can make some people really be sent over the edge with sexual excitement.
11 Degrading kinks
This would be the opposite of praise, A person with this kink is turned on by being degraded by their partner either through words or through actions (i.e. being spit on). This kink might do something for you if you lean toward being submissive and like your partner to take control and tell you what to do in a sexual situation.
12 Autoplushophilia (Furries)
The furry kink. This involves dressing up in animal costumes and engaging in sexual play. If you like to dress up or have a huge stuffed animal collection—this kink may be for you.
13 Mummification
No this is not linked to mommy issues… this is about mummies as in ancient Egypt kind of mummies. People with this kink get turned on by wrapping their partners or being wrapped up with saran wrap or other items very tightly. This could be dangerous, so ensure you do it right.
14 Blood Play
This is for individuals that get aroused by the idea and sight of blood. This could be their partners or even their own. A blood kink might speak to people who are turned on by vampires or those who enjoy inflicting or receiving pain (sadists and masochists).
15 Age Play
This is a form of roleplay where two consenting adults take on different roles that would consist of a different age that they would be playing the role of. Think Mummy, Daddy, etc. Age play can range from using different names to literally dressing up like a baby.
16 Financial Domination
Financial domination, aka FinDom, is often a fetish but can also be a kink. It involves giving over total control of one’s finances to someone else or being kept on a strict budget or being ordered to purchase certain things. This kink is for you if the idea of giving over so much control in such an important part of life turns you on.
17 Cuckolding
Cuckolding is about being turned on by your partner having sex with someone else, either in front of you or away from you and relaying details at a later date. A cuckold is aroused by the idea of sharing their partner and also by the implied humiliation of “not being able to wholly satisfy” them.
18 Nipple Play
Basically says it in the name… People who in general find themselves drawn to breasts might find they have a nipple kink.
19 Hosiery
This is when you wear pantyhose or have a partner wear hosiery while engaging in sexual activity.
20 Electrostimulation
Electrostimulation involves using the power of electricity meaning, getting an electric shock—for kinky, sexy fun. Electrostimulation is part of CBT (cock and ball torture).
21 Foot Fetishism
Someone with a foot fetish is literally turned on by feet—thinking about them, touching them, seeing them—and could potentially get off on everything feet. They often want to engage in foot worship, in which they treat their partner’s foot like a holy object.
22 Klismaphilia
This particular kink generally refers to receiving pleasure from receiving an enema, although there are those who get off on administering enemas as well. The anus is an erogenous zone, after all, which helps explain why kinky folks have been using enemas for pleasure forever.
23 Nylons
One with a nylon fetish may enjoy the look and feel of toes, feet, and legs wrapped tightly in nylon stockings. They may want to smell the nylons or have them shoved in their mouth.
24 Quirofilia
The fetish for hands is referred to as quirofilia, which may manifest as an attraction to fingers, a great manicure, or simply some smoking hot hands. Hands are sexy.
25 Puppy Play
Known as pup play, this is a brand of BDSM role-play where people imitate adolescent canine behaviour in order to get off. Although puppy play is implicitly a sexual fetish, it does not explicitly require penetrative sex (nor, for that matter, does any kink scene).
Remember, regardless of what kind of sexual activity you get yourself into, consent is key. No means no no matter what, and if your partner is unable to say no due to intoxication or any other reason… it also means that they are unable to say yes. Keep those lines of communication open with your partner(s) when it comes to sexy time and have fun. It is all about embracing who you are and no judgements. Also keep in mind, that my list above is not complete… there are loads more kinks and fetishes that exist.
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