The words “Kink” and “Fetish” are terms that have become quite common in today’s society, especially over the past decade. Often these terms are used interchangeably for unusual sexual play, but there are some important distinctions that separate the two.
What exactly is a kink? Kink is quite a broad umbrella term that encompasses all alternative types of sexual interests. Basically all of those things that are not so ‘mainstream’ when it comes to sexual activity. This also includes all aspects of BDSM. It also includes polyamory, cuckolding, pegging, group sex, pony play, littles, and much more.
What might be considered a little bit risque for one, might be a bit more mainstream for the other. So what is actually considered “kinky” can start quite a debate depending on who the person is. It’s based primarily on your generation, culture, and religion. For instance, your grandmother might find dildos or doggy style to be a form of kink, while those same things might be considered vanilla and boring to her grandchildren in Gen Z.
What is a fetish? Fetishes are physical, psychological, or sensational requirements that are needed for sexual arousal and pleasure. Fetishes can involve inanimate objects or more specific materials for example leather, silk etc. Many people have some slight fetishistic behaviours—a voluptuous butt, for example, is currently a popularly fetishized body part.
Kinks are more about exploration and variety, whereas a fetish is a sexual necessity. Oftentimes, kinks overlap with fetishes, but what separates the two depends on whether the behavior or item is required for sexual arousal. #thesomethingguyTweet
DISCLAIMER: Before reading the article, remember that this might not be for you. However, this is a respectful zone and there will not be any vulgarness or detailed descriptions of said acts explained. For that, you are welcome to do a few more google searches. This is purely for educational purposes and safe for work to read.
BDSM is an umbrella term for bondage, discipline/domination, submission/sadism, and masochism. These kinks revolve mainly around power play, the voluntary, yet erotic exchange of power between partners. BDSM is all about one party exerting their dominance over the other. Of course, mutual consent, and agreed-upon rules should be established beforehand. Safety and consent are sexy.
2 Ropes and Bondage
One of the more well-known kinks involves ropes and bondage. This is quite ideal if you are turned on by the idea of being restricted or restricting your partner. Exploring this kink necessitates a safe word so that you can easily end the scene if it becomes too much. Have scissors on hand as well so that ropes can be simply and quickly removed.
Sexual voyeurism is the practice of becoming aroused by watching another person or people in a state of undress and/or engaging in sexual activity.
This kink is characterized by assuming new personalities during sex and finding increased pleasure as a result of stepping outside of one’s comfort zone. For example, you and your companion could play a librarian and a student, or a delivery driver and a housewife, respectively. Are you usually the more shy or more timid partner but you can really let go and come harder when you don’t have to be yourself? Maybe roleplay is your kink.
If you ever fantasize about having sex, masturbating, or getting naked in front of an audience or want someone to watch you, then you might find this kink enjoyable. This kink can be a lot of fun, but make sure that what you’re doing won’t get you arrested for indecent exposure!
6 Orgasm Control
This is when you let your partner control the timing of your orgasm. This is often achieved through the use of bondage. The dominant partner restrains the submissive partner and stimulates them to the brink of orgasm—only let them come when/if the dominant partner wants to.
This is a sound kink, meaning you get turned on by hearing certain kinds of sounds. For example, you might be extra aroused by hearing the sound of your partner hitting against you as you have sex or the sound of their moans or how wet they are.
8 Impact Play
This is a fancy term, but it basically means spanking, paddling or caning. a Consensual erotic hitting to release endorphins which can rush to all the right spots in your body and give you exactly the feelings you are craving. This kink speaks to people who like to experiment with power and sensation.
Having a gag kink can mean that you’re turned on by wearing or making your partner wear a gag of some kind. Ball-gags or silicone bits are common toys to use for this.
10 Praise kinks
This would be for someone that loves to hear compliments, praises and words of encouragement. Being told that you are doing such a good job, or that you are a good boy or good girl can make some people really be sent over the edge with sexual excitement.
11 Degrading kinks
This would be the opposite of praise, A person with this kink is turned on by being degraded by their partner either through words or through actions (i.e. being spit on). This kink might do something for you if you lean toward being submissive and like your partner to take control and tell you what to do in a sexual situation.
12 Autoplushophilia (Furries)
The furry kink. This involves dressing up in animal costumes and engaging in sexual play. If you like to dress up or have a huge stuffed animal collection—this kink may be for you.
No this is not linked to mommy issues… this is about mummies as in ancient Egypt kind of mummies. People with this kink get turned on by wrapping their partners or being wrapped up with saran wrap or other items very tightly. This could be dangerous, so ensure you do it right.
14 Blood Play
This is for individuals that get aroused by the idea and sight of blood. This could be their partners or even their own. A blood kink might speak to people who are turned on by vampires or those who enjoy inflicting or receiving pain (sadists and masochists).
15 Age Play
This is a form of roleplay where two consenting adults take on different roles that would consist of a different age that they would be playing the role of. Think Mummy, Daddy, etc. Age play can range from using different names to literally dressing up like a baby.
16 Financial Domination
Financial domination, aka FinDom, is often a fetish but can also be a kink. It involves giving over total control of one’s finances to someone else or being kept on a strict budget or being ordered to purchase certain things. This kink is for you if the idea of giving over so much control in such an important part of life turns you on.
Cuckolding is about being turned on by your partner having sex with someone else, either in front of you or away from you and relaying details at a later date. A cuckold is aroused by the idea of sharing their partner and also by the implied humiliation of “not being able to wholly satisfy” them.
18 Nipple Play
Basically says it in the name… People who in general find themselves drawn to breasts might find they have a nipple kink.
This is when you wear pantyhose or have a partner wear hosiery while engaging in sexual activity.
Electrostimulation involves using the power of electricity meaning, getting an electric shock—for kinky, sexy fun. Electrostimulation is part of CBT (cock and ball torture).
21 Foot Fetishism
Someone with a foot fetish is literally turned on by feet—thinking about them, touching them, seeing them—and could potentially get off on everything feet. They often want to engage in foot worship, in which they treat their partner’s foot like a holy object.
This particular kink generally refers to receiving pleasure from receiving an enema, although there are those who get off on administering enemas as well. The anus is an erogenous zone, after all, which helps explain why kinky folks have been using enemas for pleasure forever.
One with a nylon fetish may enjoy the look and feel of toes, feet, and legs wrapped tightly in nylon stockings. They may want to smell the nylons or have them shoved in their mouth.
The fetish for hands is referred to as quirofilia, which may manifest as an attraction to fingers, a great manicure, or simply some smoking hot hands. Hands are sexy.
25 Puppy Play
Known as pup play, this is a brand of BDSM role-play where people imitate adolescent canine behaviour in order to get off. Although puppy play is implicitly a sexual fetish, it does not explicitly require penetrative sex (nor, for that matter, does any kink scene).
Remember, regardless of what kind of sexual activity you get yourself into, consent is key. No means no no matter what, and if your partner is unable to say no due to intoxication or any other reason… it also means that they are unable to say yes. Keep those lines of communication open with your partner(s) when it comes to sexy time and have fun. It is all about embracing who you are and no judgements. Also keep in mind, that my list above is not complete… there are loads more kinks and fetishes that exist.
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